Dating Workshop

Tomorrow is our 3rd dating workshop, and I have been so impressed with the turnout we've been getting these last few months! As the date creeps closer, I always get nervous because there aren't many people signed up, then the day before - BAM! It's phone call after phone call - people pre-registering for the workshop.

I'm so excited about the one we're doing tomorrow, because we're having one of our IGC success stories come and speak about his experience. We're still doing the top 5 dating tips, but at one point, I'll bring Frank up to speak. This is going to be great because he will be speaking from his heart - there isn't anything I've asked him to say or not to mention. Frank was, truly, one of our perfect dates - he had 15 introductions, and not one person could say ANYTHING negative about him! Nothing! I just love him, and I especially love he and Bob together - what a great couple!

The funny thing is - in the last two workshops, I talked about Frank. It was only at the last workshop that we received feedback asking that we bring in an IGC success story. In thinking about who I wanted to ask, all of a sudden I thought: well, duh! Frank! I called him the next day and he agreed.

I've also been thinking about having a dating workshop for just the women, and bringing in two of our lesbian success stories. They've jokingly told me that they feel they are the "IGC Poster Couple" and I agree!! :)

It's weird though - I feel like both women and men can learn from Frank and the way he approached every introduction, but to bring two women in to speak....I'm not sure if it will hit home with the guys as much. I don't really know why. I'm sort of figuring this out as I type. But I've been thinking about it....

Maybe it just comes down to the fact that I think my guys are better daters than my girls. The women will have one great date, then call me and put their memberships on Hold. My guys will have one great date, then call me and say, "Ok who else you got for me?" Now - that same guy will eventually put his membership on Hold for that one great date, but not until he has met 2 or 3 other guys, and gone out with that great date for at least another month. Is that necessarily better? I don't know. What works for one person might not work for another, but I have to say - I think erring on the side of more dating versus less dating is almost always the better idea. Us lesbians have been known to "nest" rather quickly.

Frank went out 15 times, but ended up with his SECOND match. Is it because he took the time to get to know his second match, without the pressure of putting all his eggs in one basket? In other words, did he fare better because there was no pressure of "oh this guy is great and I could totally see myself with him for a long time so therefore I'm shunning any other possibilities"? I think so.

At any rate, I'm so excited to hear what Frank has to say to our participants tomorrow, so if you're reading this and haven't signed up yet to join us - trust me, just do it! :)